I feel like I'm not very good at arguing. Which is bad cause I get in to arguments a lot. I'm not really sure what it is. It seems like in the heat of the moment, I usually can't find the counter arguments I'm looking for. I always think about the arguments afterward. Like tonight: A friend of mine and I were talking and he said he didn't have a choice about going to college, his parents wouldn't hear of it. And I replied that he could've done something else if we wanted. We got into an argument that essentially boiled down to him arguing that he couldn't e comfortable and still living his life the way that he wanted. But I couldn't come up with this analysis on the fly. I wanted to argue that though it may be a shitty one, you always have a choice. Instead I kept making the same points and he kept going "You're oversimplifying." In the end I was pretty annoyed with the whole thing.

I don't know if the problem is that I'm trying to be nice and courteous, or I'm just all shocked at how emphatic people get about their side. Very distressing.